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How do I reach an orgasm?

These are a couple of questions that I have been getting asked more and more, so I thought why not address them through my articles? As much as I have written this for my ladies, men you can benefit from reading this little bit of info also!

Is it OK to fake an Orgasm?

Is there something wrong with a woman that has not experienced an orgasm?

There is nothing physically wrong with women that have not experienced the big O! They simply just have not learned how. It is very much a mental exercise as well as physical. Way back when…, we were taught that it was a bad thing to touch ourselves (masturbate). That was a big wrong turn for a lot of women.

I have read a lot of letters from women that tell me that they were in their late 20`s before they ever experienced an orgasm, one that they would consider an orgasm anyway. This is why I express over and over, ladies learn about YOUR BODY! Orgasms are very connected to ones mind when dealing with the female. If you are worried or tired or feeling a bit at odds with your partner, that door is definitely going to be locked, even nailed shut. It will take some work and patience to find the key to open up that mind trap.

Too many women spend way too much time worrying about orgasms. Worry only puts up the walls that will totally disable your mind to relax and float. Think of watching and waiting for water to boil. By the time it has boiled you have lost interest. Or when you are trying to call someone and the line is forever busy, that just frustrates you to no end.

If you would have just carried on with something else at the time, the water would have boiled before you knew it, the phone line would be cleared, and you would be frustration free! Orgasms work in very much the same way. Do not think about them. Do prepare for them, feel your body call them, desire them, fantasize, open your mind up to a total zone of passion. Pure thoughtless passion!

Some women feel that if they do not orgasm, their partner will feel that they have failed them, or vice verse. (GUILT) There is absolutely no room for guilt or shyness in the arena of sex! This is one of the reasons women FAKE the O! It does not do any real physical harm to fake most things in life. The only one that is losing out though, is you. You are fooling no one but yourself. Then you end up feeling even worse because you pretended at a time when you should be open and real.

There is also the time thing. Women are in need of more stimulation and time to relax and be able to find their zone. Men tend to think that five minutes is just super…NOT…so ladies this is where communication comes into play. You must tell your man that NO, I am not there yet. I know this sounds bossy, but most men hardly ever have a problem telling the women what to do in bed and when to not stop. Also ladies please tell your man to do like the yellow pages commercial, “Let your fingers do the walking”. Women like and need the finger play. Also ladies if your man is just down there asap…tell him to slow down. This can also throw women off when they are feeling rushed.

When you are close to your partner and feel that sex is in the air, enjoy even just the kiss at first. I mean really enjoy just the kiss. Allow your body to warm up and get your juices flowing. Or really feel his touches, and listen to your partners voice when he says your name. If he never says your name, tell him too. He will oblige immediately.

Tell him you want to hear him admire your body. A women on the norm has a hard time verbalizing what she likes. This is just because we were raised to be nice girls. Well, TALK! You will be surprised at how much more relaxed you become and excited once you can talk to your partner about touching where and how. Tell your partner to join you in that little game. A women’s body will react very nicely if you just allow the feelings of a kiss to penetrate you.

Another turn on for you ladies is to touch yourself while your partner watches. Yes, you will love it once you allow him into your world. He will not say no to that request. To see or hear how excited he gets watching you enjoying your body is another very big turn on for you. This is also a very good way to keep your mind away from the, “will I or won`t I” question. Think of anything but the ultimate O!

G-spot orgasms are pretty easy to reach. We can get there as easy as men have the ability to get hard. To get there just tell your man to do the, “walking”. Or take his hand and guide him down to where your body is wanting his touch. G-Spot orgasms feel nice and they are basically our juice fountain, that is when we get very wet. This is when your body prepares for penetration.

It is the clitoral Orgasm that most women are after. Those ones will shake your ground. But again, these are mind connected. I will say I am speaking for the norm of women. Every women is different to a degree, but we are basically after the same thing. We all want to feel that intense vibration and the total body rush that runs through our body. It is an adrenaline rush like no other. To know we have that kind of control in our minds and bodies also boosts our self-esteem! That my Ladies is a very good thing!

Some women are sensitive enough that they will react instantly to a touch. That is not always that good. Her orgasm at that point will be quick and over before she even gets to really appreciate it. The longer it takes to reach that ,”O” Zone, the more intense the orgasm. That is another reason you want to learn to control your body. Eventually you will be able to tell your mind when and where!

A very, very good way to learn about your body is to bring yourself to orgasm. I tell women that all the time. You need to know and be able to connect with your own mind before you can allow someone to do it for you. Once you can learn to control your minds ability to fantasize or totally zone out, your body will follow naturally. Ladies again, it is so important to learn this because it keeps your mind off whether or not the O is going to happen. Once you have learned about your body, you will be able to bring that O on yourself just with your mind.

A little hand stimulation is also your minds best friend here. You will know how much stimulation you will need at the time. You will eventually know your entire body`s secret passages to feeling. Yes! Very yummy. So my words here, are to get to know your secrets.. and HAVE FUN!

Remember Ladies, men are not born with your road map to orgasm. First you need to draw it for him. Then show it to him. From there it is totally the big,” O” every time. This is my recipe to the one thing that women can do over and over again, without a rest period. Ha!! Sorry guys, we were born that way.

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Laughter and Orgasms are Great Bedfellows

John Callahan

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When modern woman discovered the orgasm, it was combined with modern birth control, perhaps the biggest single nail in the coffin of male dominance.




Continuous Sex Dissatisfaction

Continence means a complete lack of sexual intercourses. The main symptom of continence is the utmost sexual dissatisfaction. Specialists gave this disorder of sexual behavior the following classification:

1. For the young people who have recently started their sexual life is quite characteristic to have the continence intervals, which can vary from couple of days to couple of months.

2. Conditional physiological rhythm. This category include young couples whose intervals of continence makes up approximately one week.

3. Single people. The interval of continence for this group of people can vary from half a year to a year and a half.

4. Syndrome of a monk. This state is characterized by the lack of sexual contacts for the period exceeding three years.
So let’s analyze how continence can affect your life and what are the consequences of this sexual disorder.

If the period between sexual contacts does not exceed half a year, it won’t affect your health sufficiently. The only problem that men may face is premature ejaculation during the first (after the continence) sexual intercourse.

But if your continence lasts more that half a year there is a certain thread that it can affect both your physical and your mental health. Men can acquire a strong fixation on everything concerning sex and sexuality. Their physical health also suffers because the erection becomes unstable shortening the time of their sexual intercourses and leading to various neuroses and other psychological problems. Such long lasting continence can cause that not only the first sex is going to “fail” but the further ones as well.

Women can suffer from a number of other additional side symptoms of continence. Beside the sexual necroses, they can get an addiction to excessive usage of make up and clothes. The majority of then become annoyingly flirtatious and aggressive. However the physical affects are not that serious as those of men. The only sexual disorder that can be observed in a woman after more that half year continence is a slight decrease of her libido.

The lack of sexual contacts for more than three years may turn into a real catastrophe for your health. In that case your body suffers a complete restructure of its functions. Both the physical and mental changes are irreversible. You sexual drive and libido can completely cease or get pretty low.

The most characteristic behavior for women in this state is indifference to their appearance and to men, necroses, severe headaches and apathy. The irritability turns into aggressive reaction on any outer stimulus. They can also suffer from cervical erosions, mastopathy that eventually can lead to infertility.

As to men, their fixation of sex turns into indifference and fear of sexual contacts, nervous lack of self-confidence and gradual regress of libido.
The reasons of continence can be different. Among them various psychological problems, too low or too high self esteem, detention, army, as well as sexual problems in the families with sufficient age difference.

As it was already mentioned, continence presents a serious thread for human health therefore it should be either prevented or treated in a right way. If you’ve become a “victim” of long term continence the best way is to visit a psychologist, because your own powers may be not sufficient to prevent or get rid of the destructive affects of this sexual disorder.

Separate groups which can also be impacted by continence are married couples. Here the continence is the result of “habitual” spousal sex. Besides addressing a qualified sexologist you can try and vary your sex life, apply your own creativity. You may practice different sex games, sex toys and other adult items, plan new exciting recreation activities or arrange a vacation in some exotic place.




Tips on Cunnilingus, Fellatio and Orgasms!

If you are wondering what I am going to share with you, then you are definitely in need of this article, especially after reading my teaser up there. I have shared many of my thoughts with you during the past few months. Mostly about females why`s and woe`s. I have had many men request that I give them more information on exactly what women like in the sex, and feelings department.

OK, well I will do what I do best, just simply share what my thoughts on these subjects are. Take them or leave them!

There are so many sites out there that are about dating, relationships, how to score, how to win, and yet men are still looking for answers. Why is that? Maybe it`s because not every answer fits every women! That may be your first hint guys. We are all different, what works on one women will make another women slap your face with disgust. So I would think that a good thing to do is to just chat a bit with the lady and get to know the side of her that she is willing to show you. Hopefully you are smart enough to listen to her, and learn as she talks. Oh, and please save the checking out her boobs or her butt until after you have won the first battle.

I truly believe men are so quickly blinded by our physical protrusions (wink) that they immediately lose their focus at first base. Guys, the body parts are not going anywhere. Have some class and be patient. OK, enough about that very somber subject. I will leave that for another show, as they say.

Women’s feelings, as most men have already experienced are nothing to joke about. Women are sensitive creatures and at the same time very strong. Those two characteristics are nothing short of explosive. The beneficial side to these hard to deal with emotions is that women are just as equally passionate and loving towards the male gender. It is our passion that fuels our desires to be wanted by men. We send off certain signals that entice and attract men. Women know exactly how to win a mans heart. Remember, we are the more sensitive feeling being, of the two genders. We also deal with hormones that turn us into monsters one minute and little tiny babies in another. Our feelings are usually on the top of our skin. That’s why we get hurt so much easier than men. We are child bearers, and that instinctively causes us to be more cautious and rely on our intuitions more than facts. So guys , please forgive us for being the more feeling human. Do not hate us for it, or get frustrated with us, but love us and know that for all the pain we share, we also share twice as much pleasure. That brings me to my next thought!

Sex, that is definitely a good thought not to mention a very fun act between men and women. Women love to be touched, and felt. She wants to feel your hands on her body. It is a very important physical connection that sends messages to her most intimate senses. When a man touches a woman’s body, she feels wanted, she feels lusted, she feels craved, but most of all she feels SEXY! Her self-esteem will ROAR! That my dear sweet men, is exactly the point you want her at. You want her to feel SEXY!

Women do vary with having their breasts played with. This should be done gently at first, so to not turn her off. Some women love a very passionate kiss. A passionate kiss can be an instant orgasm. Women love to feel the sensation of your breathe on thier skin. That will surely send her to a new level of sensations. Women have very sensitive backs. A women’s spine will tingle with the slightest touch of your finger tips. Kiss her shoulders, please. Kiss her belly! Kiss her thighs, that is another very sweet spot for women! Kiss her between her legs! She will be warm already, anticipating the sensation of your tongue! It is a very sweet way to taste the women that you desire!

She will feel that much more open to you, knowing that you want every part of her body! Women`s bodies have so many sensations that it does take them a bit more time to get them to have an orgasm. The more sensations that you can get a women to feel, the higher she will go into her orgasm zones. Spend time tasting her, never rush her. Also please no not wear out just one spot. Women know there good spots, ask her to tell you what feels good. Be patient though, women do have a harder time talking about sex. Listen to her moans, read her body language, feel her wetness. All these are signs being sent to you. That’s a plus for you also. The more orgasmic a women feels, the more adventurous she will be when it is you she wants to devour.

Remember, to tell her how SEXY she is and how sweet she tastes! Let her know how good she feels to you. Let her know that she is driving you crazy. Women also love to know that for sure. When men are quiet during sex, women feel that they are not exciting or sexy. Women need to hear that men want them and want to please them. When women feel they are wanted, that in turn makes them want to please their man. HMMM! Where do you think my thoughts are going now??

MHM!! Women also love to please their men. They know that men crave fellatio, better know to most as ,”Blow-jobs”. (SMilz) Yes guys we know, we know. Women read more that you can imagine how just how to give their guy the best BJ. There are just as many books out there and sites on the internet about that as there are about how to please a woman. My hint to all the women wondering out there is…PRACTICE!!!! Body language from your man is a must to watch for. Not all men are the same. Some men are more sensitive in some areas that others. Just as women are also on different levels of sensations when it comes to oral sex. Another good tip ladies is your thoughts at the time of the Bj. Think sex. Think wet.Think suction. Think warm. Think HIM!! Love him!! But most of all suck him like you want it. The more he feels that you are just absolutely crazy for it, the more intense it is for him. Do not be afraid of what you are doing. You cannot hurt him unless you bite. That’s a NO! NO!…. DO NOT BITE or SCRAPE! 🙂 Don`t be afraid to ask him how it feels, or if there is anything more you can do to please him.

Communication, as in anything, is important in sex. It is after all, something that we want to enjoy with one another. Also we learn more about each other through sharing our physical desires. Ladies another very huge turn on for your man is when he sees you feel SEXY! When a man sees his woman sexy, confident and open to him, it will totally send him over the edge of lust for you. So lets get SEXY!!

When all is said and done, Cuddles is a biggie. We need to cuddle. It reassures us that everything was perfect. It’s kind of like the icing on the cake. It bonds us on another level of communication. Some women and men have their best conversations when they cuddle. It is almost like a surrender of weapons.

Well these are my thoughts on this. I hope I have not offended anyone. I know this is a different subject than what you are use to reading. But I am human also, just like you. Also I wanted to show a little attitude of a different color for my readers.

Enjoy life and enjoy all of it benefits.

We only get but one shot at it.

Men and Women were made to enjoy each other.

So just do it!

Addie McCoy

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Vaginas and Oral Simulators

Vagina is a simulatorof female genitals sometimes equipped with vibrator or pomp.

Oral Simulator is a sex toyimitating mouth and creating the oral sex effect. By its functional features oral simulator is similar to vagina.

Nowadays sex shops sell sex toys with vibrating and sucking functions, there’re also simple self-driven toys, non-visual-effect toys and toys imitating all female genital details: vulvar lips, anus or pubic hair.

Man experiences real bright sensations while using vagina, since the penis is actively massaged by vaginal walls. Moreover, if vagina is equipped with soft knobbles or ribs and vibrating or sucking mechanism, the man gets incomparable orgasm.

Vaginas and oral simulators create double effect: first – diversity in sexual life, second – physical and psychological unload of organism. Both men and women may have psychological disorders as well as overstrain or alcohol overconsumption problems, which may cause temporary asthenia or even importance. Importance also depends on prostate condition -approximately 40% of men after 40 suffer from prostatitis. And again artificial vagina will be of great help here.

Vagina or oral simulator can be used independently and with a partner to enhance erection. Vagina is also important for prevention of congestions, prostatitis and adenoma. Pelvis and genitals blood congestion result in male genital system inflammations and diseases.

To avoid such congestions, men before 40 should ejaculate 2-3 times a week, and after 40 – no less than once a week. However there’re situations when there’s no woman about: military service, business trip etc. Afterwards long continence may cause poor erection or quick ejaculation, with a man getting strong psychological shock and, as a result, importance. Artificial vaginas can solve all these problems.

Modern sex shops offer a good deal of vaginas, anuses and oral simulatorsof all possible modifications made of latex, silicone, cyber-skin etc. They all make up for a woman absence, diversify sexual relations and add them some special shading.

Realistic vaginas are very useful for sexual upbringing of your teen son. They can be used to learn female genitals structure and for practice. At 13-14 real sex with real woman won’t always be good but vice versa can result in psychological injuries. At this age a boy turns into a man and masturbation is inevitable, i.e., the best way out is artificial vagina. Its usage will provide for the general hygiene of your child’s genitals and protect him from all possible infections.